Perfectionism vs. Get-It-Done-ism….
There is a term I only picked up recently in crochet called “frogging.” It had been tossed around in various groups/comments, and it took me a while to figure out it meant undoing your work to fix/change something. I honestly can’t seem to remember what it means (maybe it has to do with the sound the yarn makes as it’s ripped free?).
Whatever the meaning, I now say “Ribbit Ribbit” whenever I have to back track.
Of course, I’ve usually done a complete round or row past my mistake before I notice that I messed up in the first place. And here kicks in the dilemma. To Frog or not to Frog? Almost always, I go back and fix it. Even if I’m halfway done with a hat that’s just not working out right, I’ll rip the whole thing out and start again. Multiple times. And yet, despite the fact that 19 times out of 20, I go back and fix it, I STILL have this debate with myself…
Oh shoot! Ugh. That’s not right. Grrrrrrr. Can I skip over it easily? Will anyone else notice? Well, I’ll know. But no one else will. Will they? But even if they don’t, I will. And the whole time I’m working on this, I’ll be thinking of this mistake. Just get over it! But then when I give this to the recipient, I’ll know it’s not perfect. And it could have been perfect. I can even fix it now. How much time would I really lose? Ugh – all that time lost! Maybe I can just work it out and keep going. But then there will be one blemish that could have been fixed! Perfection is within reach! But I really don’t want to have to do my work all over again! But this time, I’ll KNOW that it’s right. Okay fine! You win! Are you happy now?!?!?
And as I rip out my beautiful flawed work, a mixture of satisfaction and frustration run through me. I fix my error and sigh. I get back to the point to where I noticed the problem and smile. And I finish the work more joyfully than I started. I honestly should know better than to argue with myself.
I always win.
Here’s one time I left it alone. It’s a corner to corner baby blanket and my rows are getting really long now as I approach the center. I missed a stitch. I had to consult with the hubby who quickly said “let it go.” So I did. In this pattern, it blends away really well (it actually took me a few minutes to find the mistake to photograph it!). Although every time I work on it, I know. I KNOW. But at least the yarn is pretty!